A Joyous Arrival

Jeff and I are happy to announce the arrival of our daughter Marli Roz Edwin!

Birthday: April 19, 2011
Time of Birth: 3:12 p.m.
Weight: 8 pounds 2 ounces
Length: 19 inches long

The delivery was smooth with her at  full term, and I somehow managed a natural delivery with little stress. Our Childbirthing classes paid off in terms of learning relaxing techniques!

Like any mother, she's absolutely beautiful and now home in my arms.  Her brothers have visited her already, and are as proud as us! It has been a beautiful time, and now I intend to relish in every aspect of it. I'm so lucky for this pregnancy to have gone off without a hitch, and I truly know how blessed I am. Marli is my miracle baby, and I truly believe she changed my life for the better.

Baby Update: Third Trimester, Week 33

I see now why they say the second trimester is the one in which the mother feels the best. I am starting to feel fatigued from the extra weight on my front side, but everyone talks about how I just glow. This I can believe: Between my acne and my smile, there is certainly something going on with my face.

This week with the baby:

• She's pretty much fully developed with all organs matured except for lungs and brain. These last few weeks are crucial to continued growth in these areas.
• She's been very active in the womb, so much so that her father has felt her kicking a few times.
• She's even had hiccups!
• Her weight is at about four pounds. 

This week for me:

• I'm definitely fatigued, but am still going to yoga and swimming weekly to stay healthy.
• I've been going to my classes and learning as much as I possible can. I'll soon be certified for doing CPR on infants!
•  My cravings for Cheerios has subsided, and been replaced by a food aversion to blue Kool-Aid. I've nearly tossed my cookies when a few of my artist friends drank that stuff down during an art party.
• I've contacted a babysitter to help me out after the baby is born on an as-needed basis. Her name is Rebecca Prince, and her hourly fee is $15. 
• As previously mentioned, my hormonal craziness has brought on a bit of acne. So, not only do I feel like a whale, but I feel like an ugly whale. But, I just look at it as a humble sacrifice for my girl.
• I'm starting to feel uncomfortable at night.
• When I feel the baby kick, I can tell if it's an elbow or a knee. And, sometimes it's strong enough to make me hunch over.
• She also likes to treat my bladder like a trampoline.
• I've been surprised at the cost of doctors appointments: Every trip to Dr. Sellers, which will be like 15 or so total, cost $133 on average--tests included.
• We've made a natural birth plan to try my hardest to reject pain medication while in the hospital, just as I did with my first two. 
• I finished setting up the nursery, after making a few final purchases at ToysRUs.

 

I can't believe how fast this time has moved. This baby has been my own personal rebirth: Not only do I feel like a young mother again, only wiser, but I have a renewed vigor for learning and living in the present.

I look forward to raising this baby, like teaching her to paint her nails or ballet dance. I can't wait to put big bows in her hair and dress her in dresses. I even look forward to the day that I can teach her about sex, unlike my experience with my mother. And, though I will be in my fifties before she's even in high school, I have a feeling that this baby girl will keep me young.

This is something that French Polynesia could have never provided me.

Nesting

I have happily now waltzed my way into the third trimester. My bump is pronounced, and I've started  wearing my maternity purchases without feeling like I couldn't fill the extra space out. The doctors appointments, now weekly, have been constantly good news: Nothing seems out of the ordinary, and she keeps growing at a healthy rate. 

Honestly, I am on cloud nine.

So, the last few months have been dedicated to intense nesting. We've been prepping the nursery with paint, furniture, and necessities. Because this is not our first baby, we've refused baby showers by friends and insisted that they donate to the March of Dimes in our names rather then buy gifts. This has really put the pressure on us to provide, which we happily do with shopping trips of our would-be French Polynesia funds.

Right after we found out the sex of our baby girl, we went right ahead to buying furniture. Like my daydream from earlier in the pregnancy, after first finding out that my life was about to change forever, I went to ToysRUs to pick up the furniture I had been admiring after my visit with Dr. Dobbs.  Jeff and I knew this would be a pricey trip, but we happily accepted that the versatility of buying a convertible crib, bookcase, and most of the furnishings for the nursery. That eased our minds for paying so much. Here's the receipt:

 

 Since then, I have been accumulating the basics from less expensive stores like Target and Wal-Mart. I almost forgot how to dress a wee one! I found myself actually having to read tags of clothing items to remember what was meant for sleep or play. And to shop for a girl is a new experience all in itself! The ruffles and rich pinks and purples make clothing shopping a rich experienced compared to the days of pastel blue and pink. That, and the supplies for a newborn is now so vast! But, because of my prenatal classes at the hospital, I was able to make quality decisions without feeling stressed. Here are the receipts from those trips:

And, here is the receipt from Target:

So, I think it goes without saying that the last few weeks have been dedicating to preparing all of this stuff for the big arrival. It's a labor of love, and I'm enjoying ever minute of it. I've even painted a mural on the nursery wall to match the poppy theme from the bedding! It feels good to give such a special gift to my baby by giving her my artistic expression.


Just call me "Momma Bird".

All About Sex

My baby will be an exhibitionist, because shyness doesn't to seem to be part of HER character.

That's right! We're having a baby girl!!

Legs spread wide, Dr. Sellers found her little rosebud almost instantly during our 20-week ultrasound. I couldn't be more amazed. Here I was, alone at the doctor's office, staring at something that truly seemed foreign to me. A mother of boys in my early life, now it seemed like a complete 180 to believe that I would have a to trek into the unfamiliar territory of raising a girl. I couldn't be more excited.

Because Jeff couldn't join me, I decided to surprise him. I went to ToysRUs/BabiesRUs and found some of baby items: A pink blanket, a pink turtle, a pink outfit, everything screamed GIRL! 

 

I drove home, wrapped the pink items in a tan gift bag with white tissue paper, and set it on his the side table where he usually threw his keys after coming into the house. Patiently waiting, I eagerly ran to the window every time I heard a car. Then, at 5:30 p.m. on the dot, his Toyota Highlander pulled into the driveway. I stationed myself in the kitchen, and waited to hear his reaction.

Three steps in the door, he saw the present and dropped his keys on the floor. He knew exactly what it was. 

"Can I open it, Babe?"

"Please do!"

He tore into that gift like it was Christmas. Then, he stopped. Pink turtle in hand, he let out a crazy laugh.

Needless to say, we're excited.

Baby Update: Second Trimester, Week Nineteen

Sorry for the neglect, Blog, but real life has been interfering with my documentation. Christmas was a wild time for us. After the announcement of the pregnancy, it seems like we've been in a hustle with friends and family wanting to be more informed as the weeks progress. But, all I can say is that we're a very lucky set of parents to have seen so much love. Our sons are already buying toys for their new sibling. My fellow artist friends are planning on helping me with a belly cast soon, and are even talking about making a key chain out of the umbilical cord. And Jeff has even been given some time off of work during the slow summer months at the university to be with me in the early weeks of the baby's life.

But, as of right now, here is where the baby stands:

• Now nearly 6 inches in length, the baby is continually putting on weight as the organs continue to refine in function. 
• Th skin, though still transparent, is becoming red as the blood vessels continue to grow.
• Vernix has started to develop.
• The baby can make facial expressions.
• The newly developed retinas are sensitive to light.
• The taste buds can now distinguish sweet and bitter flavors
• Hair is forming, including eyebrows and eyelashess.
• The urinary system is now working.
• Basically, the baby is appearing more baby-like and less alien as all systems are beginning to function.
• The reproductive organs are now visible from an ultrasound to determine the sex.

 
As for me:

• My clothing is becoming uncomfortable, even when wearing my looser clothes.
• I have gained about seven pounds.
• I've been eating Cheerios all of the time! Multi-Grain Cheerios are my favorite.
• I've felt a bit more lightheaded, and am learning to move slowly.
• I can actually feel the baby s.quirm around. It feels like fluttering in my stomach
• I've had other small incidents of discomfort, like more heartburn, but nothing that I can't tolerate.
• I'm still reading my books.
• The obstetrician visits with Dr. Sellers are starting to feel routine. He'll throw a few tests my way, check my stats, and tell me that I'm progressing nicely. I certainly don't take this for granted. So far, my Rh is conducive the the baby, the amniocentesis results match the CVS findings, and we are rolling right along.
• For $900, Jeff and I joined Conway Regional Fitness so that I could take my at-home yoga to a new level. There is a special maternity yoga group that I've been attending, and the indoor pool has been nice to soothe my achy boy.
• We've also signed up for a few parenting-related classes through the hospital of our delivery, Baptist Medical Center. For $30, Jeff and I have decided to take a Babysafe CPR class. For the same price, we're taking a Newborn Care refresher class. At $40, I'm taking a Breastfeeding class. (I didn't breastfeed my first two, but now it seems crucial.) And, finally, Jeff and I will take a Childbirthing class for $65. The kind Nurse Abby commended our dedication: We just laughed and told her that we didn't want to be utterly clueless this time around.
• I actually went to go maternity clothes shopping because my bump will soon be in the way. Part of me is sad to see my high heels go back into the closet for awhile, but at least I could buy some adorable flats to make up for it. And, the nice thing about most of these clothes is that it will last me past my pregnancy and into the months after the baby while I lose weight.

 

 
Soon, we should be able to find out the sex of our baby. This is exciting, because with the first two we didn't take the option: We were kind of rebellious back then, and more pleased by surprises. But, now we just want to be prepared. So, we're hoping the wee one won't be so shy in the mid-pregnancy standard ultrasound.

Spreading the Love

My sons are amazing.

Thanksgiving came, and this year we somehow managed to have Jeff's parents and my parents join us for the holiday. The boys came into town, Hyde with a surprise guest of a girlfriend and Jasper with stories of the Dallas art scene. We managed to squeeze everyone into the house for the extended weekend, so it was like a giant family sleepover.


During the entire cooking of Thanksgiving, I was starting to be a nervous mess. I could care less if the deviled eggs looked pretty, or the turkey was brown: My mind was running at 1000 miles a minute over the spreading the news. How would they take it?


The table spread, all of us around the turkey, we dropped the bomb.


Jeff's mom dropped her fork the the floor. My parents started laughing. And, Hyde turned to Jasper with a massive grin.


"Finally, you can't call me the baby anymore!"


It was a nice moment, and I'm happy that everyone reacted with such joy. We explained our story, and everyone ate while recapping their favorite baby stories.


Later that night, Jeff and I pulled Hyde and Jasper aside. We explained to them that our income was different then that of when we had raised them. The two laughed at us.

"Mom, do you really think we'd expect you to not spoil this baby? It's a miracle!"


Have I mentioned that my sons are amazing?

Mind Games

The past two weeks have been a blur of excitement, change, nervousness, and a test on my patience.

Where do I begin?

The week of November 1st, the 10th week of pregnancy, Jeff and I met with genetic counselor Dr. Sarah A. Jackson. Because of my age, she felt it was crucial  for me to know my options on genetic testing. Sitting in her office, holding hands and divulging family conditions, Jeff and I felt relieved that someone was taking such an intimate insight into our pregnancy. After filling her in, Dr. Jackson informed us of the difference between a Chorionic villus sampling test and amniocentesis. 

With CVS testing being the earliest of options, it seemed like Dr. Jackson (and Dr. Sellers) were pushing for this to happen in the next week. Dr. Jackson brought up a few good points: Though it may seem like a riskier test as it's fairly invasive and requires a numbing of the test site, it would be the earliest way for us to know how to move past our concerns of chromosomal defects. With that information, we could either begin to prepare for the health insurance battle of taking care of a baby with extra health needs or move forward with the pregnancy with less concern.

So, we decided in favor of the CVS test.

Later that week, on Friday, we found ourselves in Dr. Sellers office. Jeff, having skipped his lunch hour for the 4:00p.m. appointment, held my hand as we had our first ultrasound.

Through all the drama and irony, numbing pain and frustration, shock and delight, we witnessed a miracle unfold on the black and white monitor: This baby, tiny and barely even noticeable to the untrained eye, had defied so many odds just to make it this far. But, somehow that little heart was pumping along with no concern of how many obstacles it had overcome.

I cried. Jeff teared up. And the ultrasound tech even sat in awe, after we had filled her in on our journey to get here. French Polynesia could never have given us this much satisfaction.

Dr. Sellers completed the ultrasound and prepped me for the CVS test. Jeff sat valiantly at my side, though he is also a needle phobic like me. But, before the amazement of seeing our baby for the first time could wear off, Dr. Sellers was done.

Then, it became a waiting game that tested my mental strength. Part of me wanted to hear the results right away, just to stop over thinking the issue. I kept having panicked dreams that the test results showed nothing whatsoever and that the ultrasound hand lied, like this had been some elaborate hoax to test a gullible woman.It was awful. Then, part of me just never wanted to know the answers until the baby arrived: I kept asking myself what benefit was it to really have all the answers now. Could anything even be done if the test results came back with signs of a genetic defect? Could I really live with the guilt with the news that early on? I kept having mental arguments, time and time again. And, by the way Jeff dove head first into grading classwork, I knew that he was going through the same mind games.

Two days ago we were called with the results.

"Mrs. Edwin, as for right now you are in the clear. Your test results do not show any genetic defects." 


Sweet relief.